If women can struggle with a low sex drive, then so can men. It's only fair, after all. And while it might be hard to pinpoint your S.O.'s problem area, tackling these bad habits might give your sex life a well-needed boost. Disclaimer: If you and your partner have exhausted your options, we recommend reaching out to a professional.
If it's hard for your partner to leave work at the office, that might explain the lack of interest in sex. A from Baylor College of Medicine revealed that "shift work" affects a man's sexual performance — and his desire for sex in the first place. It makes sense: working extra hours likely means more stress and less sleep.
"Many people are surprised to hear that men yearn for intimacy just like women," says , LCSW. "It's true: If men don't feel close to their partner, they won't have a high sex drive."
Testosterone gives men mojo. And without the proper nutrients, especially Vitamin D, testosterone takes a nosedive — and so does his libido. A found that men taking Vitamin D supplements were able to significantly increase testosterone levels (a solution!).
In some cases, exercise can have negative effects (key word: some). A from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill found that men who reported engaging in long and strenuous workouts were more likely to have low libidos. Here's the twist: men who exercise at a light or moderate level actually have stronger libidos.
Without a good night's rest, nobody — including your partner — is going to in the mood for sex. Snoring, often the result of sleep apnea, to reduced sexual satisfaction, especially in older men.
Some studies say watching porn is linked to a higher libido, and others say the opposite. However, it's true that an addiction to porn can have detrimental effects on his desire for sex. An found that men suffer from "sexual anorexia" — fear about sex that limits the desire — after excessive porn usage.
Fish, flaxseeds, and walnuts are chock-full of . Aside from their known benefits for improving brain and heart health, these nutrients are also linked to higher sex drives. Omega-3s balance testosterone, estrogen, and progesterone levels — all of which are necessary to get your S.O. in the mood. So, how about salmon for dinner?
Think about it: Who wants to be intimate with someone who's glued to their phone or laptop? TV reruns, Google searches, and social media binges for the distance you might feel between you and your partner.
"If there's problems in the bedroom, there may be bigger problems in the relationship," says . "If your partner hasn't taken the time to properly heal from a breakup, the desire to be intimate with you might wear over time."
"Above all, stress impacts a man's libido," says . our bodies can't function properly — and that's especially true in the bedroom. A in The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease revealed that internal stresses from relationships, work, or other personal matters are directly related to sexual problems.
Because greasy fries aren't always the answer. Fried, fatty foods found at most fast food chains are not only loaded with grease — they're also full of , chemicals that negatively affect a man's hormone levels and libido.
"There should always be a degree of novelty in sex," says . "A low libido may just mean that your partner's bored in the bedroom." To spice it up, try a change of scenery (any excuse for a vacation!).
First things first, if your partner is struggling with their mental health, they should see a doctor. But it's also important to understand that their depression or anxiety struggles may . When dopamine levels — the chemical that makes people happy —are low, someone's craving or enjoyment of sex will take a hit.
Regular smoking lowers a man's desire for sex and overall sexual performance. that nicotine, the addictive drug in cigarettes, is at fault.
, one out of every four men suffer from erectile dysfunction. On top of that, it's not just something older men face — men well under 40 are also in this statistic. Without properly taking care of this issue, your partner may be experiencing stress or a lack of self-esteem that may .
One drink (alright, maybe two) is totally fine. But if your husband is knocking back a couple drinks a day, then it might be hurting his libido. Heavy drinking can have on the hormone regulation in his reproductive system.
Sex is just as much an emotional act as it is physical. If your partner's emotional health is out of whack, it's likely that his sex drive will be too. "Activities, including yoga, gardening, and exercise, that don't rely on mental stimulation and instead connect us to our senses, relax us, or get us into our bodies are more likely to open us up to being sexual," says Brandy Engler, LA-based and author of .
Poor posture doesn't only have negative repercussions for your spinal health. In fact, a found that people who sit up straight had higher self-esteem, more arousal, and a better mood overall.
Many come with a handful of unwanted side effects, including a decreased sex drive. Antidepressants and antihistamines, in particulars, are ones to look out for.